Have you seen the show Love Child?? It is set back in 1969 and shows the true story of the forced adoption practices that were taking place at that time in Australia. Young women who became pregnant, were sent to institutions for the term of their pregnancies and once delivered, were returned back to their families (if they would have them back). Babies were most commonly forcibly removed from the mother at birth and then adopted out to married couples who could not have children. For most of these mother, they never even got to see their babies. Due to the stigma associated with having a child out of wedlock and the lack of financial assistance, there was a wide spread view that adopting out these babies was in “the best interest of the child”.
So while driving to work this morning, I got to thinking about how those mothers must have felt or still feel, having never set eyes on their baby, having him/her taken away – never knowing what has become of that child and then having to live with that for the rest of their lives and what about the child? How does that child grow up? Does he/she know that they are adopted? How did they find out? Was it an accident or were they always aware? So many questions………..and so many different experiences that could happen, but its the underlying grief in the whole story, that sense of loss that both the mother and child experience on some level, their sense of identity is lost. That grief lasts a lifetime and in most cases never resolves………..these women have just moved on with life, living it the best they can. Some have reunited with their child and that is an overwhelming experience as they get to know each other and for others, that opportunity is not there…….. For a lot of women, they have never spoken about this, it is a pain that they carry within them, but perhaps they are ready to talk about their experience, how this has shaped their life………..leave the door open for them, let them talk over a cuppa and listern to their story………..