Loss is something that we all experience and affects us all in different ways. Loss can be physical or symbolic, always resulting in a deprivation of some kind, we no longer have someone or something that we used to have.
There are many examples of loss, the most obvious is loss of a loved one, loss of a pet, loss of a job, marriage, health, heirloom, loss can be anything and it is unavoidable.
How we react to our loss will depend on a vast number of influencing factors such as age, relationship, culture, philosophical beliefs etc.
Grief too, has many different presentations and will vary from person to person, situation to situation. What is most important to understand is that
It is experienced through our feelings, thoughts and attitudes, our behaviour with others and our health and bodily symptoms. Grief is something that we carry with us always. It has no time limits nor are there fixed “stages” of grief, some losses are so profound that grief never ends completely, the intensity, acuteness and ebbs and flows vary over time.
To grieve requires a great deal of time, energy and attention. There is no simple formula or escape from grief but a journey of learning to accept and live with loss – not closure (Hooyman & Kramer, 2006).
Coping with grief and loss events or incidents will largely be dependent on your life cycle stage, your coping strategies, past experiences with loss, perceptions, assumptions, beliefs, cultural background and even what other stressful events are occurring in your life at this given point in time.
Aches and pains
Loss of appetite
Substance abuse issues
Suicidal & self- harm thoughts
feelings and behaviours
Trust issues & Yearning