Grief and Loss Counselling

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Grief and Loss Counselling

Loss is something that we all experience and affects us all in different ways. Loss can be physical or symbolic, always resulting in a deprivation of some kind, we no longer have someone or something that we used to have.

There are many examples of loss, the most obvious is loss of a loved one, loss of a pet, loss of a job, marriage, health, heirloom, loss can be anything and it is unavoidable.

How we react to our loss will depend on a vast number of influencing factors such as age, relationship, culture, philosophical beliefs etc.

“Our reaction to a loss is known as Grief.”

Grief too, has many different presentations and will vary from person to person, situation to situation. What is most important to understand is that

Grief is a NORMAL psychological, social and physical reaction to a loss.

It is experienced through our feelings, thoughts and attitudes, our behaviour with others and our health and bodily symptoms. Grief is something that we carry with us always. It has no time limits nor are there fixed “stages” of grief, some losses are so profound that grief never ends completely, the intensity, acuteness and ebbs and flows vary over time.

To grieve requires a great deal of time, energy and attention. There is no simple formula or escape from grief but a journey of learning to accept and live with loss – not closure (Hooyman & Kramer, 2006).

Coping with grief and loss events or incidents will largely be dependent on your life cycle stage, your coping strategies, past experiences with loss, perceptions, assumptions, beliefs, cultural background and even what other stressful events are occurring in your life at this given point in time.

Counselling can help you acknowledge and process the situation and help you commence the healing process by:

 

Understanding the Grief and Loss cycle

Pinpointing grief and loss triggers

Identifying and exploring your personal coping strategies

By encouraging you to establish self-care practices; providing resources and referrals as required or requested.

Identify the ripple effect/s you are experiencing in your life as a result of the loss or trauma for example  (but not limited to):

Aches and pains

Anger

Anxiety

Concentration difficulties

Crying

Depression

Fatigue

Fatigue

Guilt

Headaches

Intimacy issues

Loss of appetite

Mood swings

Nightmares

Sleep disturbance

Social withdrawal

Spiritual crisis

Substance abuse issues

Suicidal & self- harm thoughts

feelings and behaviours

Trust issues & Yearning